Is stage fright holding you back? Somebody on one of the magic forums said he had his first gig coming up. He said he was too nervous to perform his good sleight of hand magic so wanted some easy to perform alternatives. Here’s my reply:
It seems to me that you’re treating the symptoms of your problem and not the cause.
In other words, you say your sleights are as good as anybody’s you’ve seen but you have stage fright. So instead of treating your anxiety, you’ve decided to do less than what you’re fully capable of doing. Why not get rid of your nervousness, which is the cause of your problem?
First of all, what makes you nervous? It’s the fear of failure. When new performers are scared to death of bombing, they don’t act like themselves. They try to come up with characters or scripts and they don’t connect with people because they aren’t being real.
So, one thing you should decide now is that you are going to treat this gig like you’re going to a friend’s house to hang out. Pretend it’s just you, friends, and family, and just be yourself. So much of finding your voice as a performer depends on how comfortable you are while on stage. If you can feel as comfortable on stage as you do when you’re hanging with your friends just chatting and cracking jokes, you will be light years ahead of many scripted performers.
This is not to imply you should just go and improvise. It means you have a plan that’s well rehearsed but in practice serves only as an outline. Make it simple. Create two sets of magic of three tricks each. Practice those routines, including what you’re going to say. Do them over and over and over and over.
You will gain great confidence by being well prepared and this confidence is your first step in eliminating your stage fright.
Next, accept the fact that you might make mistakes and certain things won’t go as planned. Do the best you can. After the gig analyze your experience, put yourself in your own audience and replay the show from their point of view, take notes, and try to do better next time.
I’d also like you stop saying that performing in front of strangers makes you nervous. When you constantly feed your mind negative thoughts like that, it builds up and creates anxiety. From now on, every time you start to think you’re nervous, put up a big stop sign in your mind and replace the word nervous with excited. Learn to speak positively to yourself. Every time you think of the upcoming gig, just think, “Man, this is going to be great, I’m excited, I’m going to kill it because I rock.” You don’t have to believe any of this for it to work. By feeding your subconscious positive thoughts, you will see a reduction in stage fright.
If you’re serious about tackling your anxiety, you should make a script for yourself that you review on a regular basis. You can simply make it a list that you read a few times a day. For instance:
1. I love performing magic because I’m good at it and it makes me happy to entertain people.
2. I am confident in my ability to entertain an audience.
3. My sleight of hand skills are well practiced and honed.
You get the idea. Try to write these things out in the present tense and make them applicable to yourself and what you need to work on. If you procrastinate, write:
4. I get everything done when it’s supposed to be done.
This isn’t voodoo. It’s a fact that constantly thinking negative thoughts over and over is bad for your mental health. It’s also a fact that negative thinking is a bad habit but you can change those thoughts into positives and you will see your anxiety go away.
Here’s another tip if you’re feeling nervous. As soon as you feel anxious, recognize the feeling, then inhale slowly through your nose, breathing from the diaphragm for two seconds and then exhale for four seconds through your mouth. Your stomach should rise when you inhale and be sucked in as you exhale. As you do the breathing, immediately distract yourself from whatever you were just thinking about (probably your upcoming gig). Distract yourself by thinking of something, anything else. It’s easier if you think of something funny. Get into this habit and you will never have a panic attack again.
Lastly, you should confront your fear. You should do the best magic you’re capable of. If you mess something up, it won’t kill you. It won’t end your career. Nobody will speak poorly about you. It just doesn’t matter if you aren’t perfect because nobody is.
The only way to be your best is to confront this stage fright issue. Realize it’s coming from a fear of failure which is tied into low self esteem. Get in line, you’re in show business, we all have low self esteem. However, don’t be a wimp and do weak magic. Instead, be well prepared, learn positive self talk, use the techniques I gave you, be yourself, and have fun!
One last tip. You can always say exactly how you feel while performing. That’s called being yourself. For example, you approach your first group and you’re shaking. No problem, walk over, introduce yourself and say, “Wow, you are the first guest I’m supposed to entertain but I may die of a heart attack first I’m so nervous.” People will find your honesty endearing and funny. There was a comedian who was on stage for her first time. Her opening line was, “I’m really nervous because my husband is here. I’m scared if I bomb, he’ll divorce me.” People cracked up.
Remember, you want people to remember you, not the tricks. Follow my guidelines and you’ll be on your way to ending stage fright for good.